31 December 2010

Fri 31-Dec-10 (last 30mins of the year)

It's just on 11:30pm here on the East Coast of Australia. We have been with Maria's parents on the coast since Christmas Eve, returning home today.

It was a hot and humid (as opposed to the usually dry) 36 degrees in Canberra. We are now starting to experience the summer heat after unprecedented rain and sometimes icy conditions. Our dams (around 30% not too long ago) are now registering 100%, with parts of our beautiful country struck by the worst floods seen in decades. Only a year ago was a large portion of the country in drought crisis. As the old adage goes, "Droughts and floods".

It's been the hardest year the three of us have experienced. In addition to Maria's passing, I have experienced a number of other challenges/battles that have stretched me in all directions and really tested my faith. Can't say I'm passing with flying colours.

I am hopeful my blogging will be a little more consistent in 2011 (you would have noticed the drop-off in the last couple of months). That said, I am not one to make promises or resolutions. However, sometime in the new year I will post a small visual expose of what's been happening more recently. In the meantime, I thought I'd share a couple of snapshots we took of ourselves at dinner (I cooked Indian) earlier this evening.

My prayer for the three of us is for a better year, one day at a time. For those of you in cyberspace, thanks for your interest and prayers since Maria's diagnosis in Feb-09 and her passing in Jan this year.

Our prayer for y'all is that the year ahead will be filled with blessings, the recognition of those blessings, as well as the strength to get through whatever rough patches you may face.

I promised the kids I'd wake them just before midnight so they could watch the world's best fireworks on TV (Sydney). Better go....

ALL THE VERY BEST FOR THE NEW YEAR!!

Troy, Ben, Gabi Xxx

15 November 2010

Mon 15-Nov-10 (Movember - half way there)

There is something I haven't blogged about until now. This "Movember" I've decided to donate my face to raising awareness about men's health. My commitment is the growth of a moustache for the entire month of Movember, which I know will generate conversation, controversy and laughter (especially).

I am doing this because close to 3,300 men die of prostate cancer in Australia each year and one in eight men will experience depression in their lifetime.

I have never tried to grow a moustache before (and may never again), so I wasn't sure how it will turn out. My aim is to grow it, let the kids shave it off, then donate an amount of money myself for the privilege of doing it. A few have asked about supporting my efforts by making a donation. If you feel compelled, then why not join me by donating either by:
  • Clicking this link and donating online using your credit card or PayPal account; or
  • Writing a cheque payable to Movember Foundation, referencing my registration number 1251974 and mailing it to: Movember Foundation, PO Box 292, Prahran, VIC, 3181.
Through the Movember Foundation and its men’s health partners, PCFA and "beyondblue: the national depression initiative", Movember is funding world class research, educational and support programs which would otherwise not be possible.

For more details on the impact Movember is having please visit this link:

So, here is how things are looking at the half-way mark. I think Gabi is leading the race!





Fri 12-Nov-10 (Gab still off school)

While it was unfortunate that a dear friend Cath had developed strep throat, it was a blessing that she by being off sick from work she was able to care for Gabi for the day. She had to take one of her kids to the doctor as well, so Gabi got out and about a little.

Gabi will hopefully be non-contagious by the weekend.

Thu 11-Nov-10 (Remembrance Day, illness identified)

Gabi woke feeling quite unwell, with ulcers in her mouth. I stayed at home again and worked.

I missed the minute's silence at work at 11:00am to commemorate Remembrance Day. For our non-Commonwealth friends, it is a memorial day observed to remember the sacrifices of members of the armed forces and civilians in times of war, specifically since the First World War This day was chosen to recall the official end of World War I on that date in 1918, as the major hostilities of World War I were formally ended "at the 11th hour of the 11th day of the 11th month" of 1918 with the German signing of the Armistice.

I called my brother in the evening and during this conversation I discovered that Luka had developed Coxsackie A Virus (Hand, Foot & Mouth disease) and was on the way to recovery. The timing suggested Gabi may have caught it from him. Sadly, little Ingrid may have also been infected.

Ben had this virus as an infant and was isolated in hospital and on a drip as his mouth was filled with blisters. Fortunately Gabi's case seems mild albeit her mouth blisters had increased, with some small spots on her hands. Her feet were otherwise fine.


Wed 10-Nov-10 (more illness probs for Gabi)

Gabi went to school on the Monday and Tuesday as her eye settled and she was otherwise well, although a little run down.

This morning we were about to leave for school when Gabi remembered her dance group was performing at assembly. We madly got ready and I had to cancel some work meetings at short notice, but it all seemed to sort itself out.

Gabi and the girls performed so well. After kissing her goodbye I started to head into work. I was only 10 minutes into the drive (about half-way) when I received a call from the school to say that Gabi had thrown up. I turned around and collected her. I spent the rest of the day working from home (the advantages of being networked in), while Gabi relaxed. While she didn't vomit again, she was off her food.

We were planning on being at Small Group as we've missed a few weeks, but it was not to be, again.

07 November 2010

Sun 7-Nov-2010 (time in hospital for Gabi)

It's been a while since I typed and since then I suppose it's mostly been regular day-to-day stuff, until today.

It all started on Thursday afternoon/evening when Gabi complained that she thought she could feel a sty developing in her right eye. We started treating it with warm salty water. As we left early Friday morning to travel to Sydney, we didn't think about it first thing in the morning. By the end of Friday, Gabi was still complaining of pain in her eye. There was nothing that could be seen.

Come Saturday morning I had just taken this photo of Gabi and Ingrid (focusing on Ingrid to get an expression) and didn't notice that her eye was closing.
About half-an-hour later I was chatting with Gabi and noticed he eye had closed a fraction more than in the photo. As we were heading home, we treated it with a cold press before leaving. Upon returning home late in the afternoon we headed straight to the pharmacy and were given some eye drops to try.

We woke this morning for church and Gabi's eye again had swollen. After chatting to a dear friend (former paediatric nurse) I called "Health First" who (also) suggested I take Gabi to hospital to have it more closely examined.

Upon arrival it didn't actually take too long to have Gabi taken around to a Paeds bed in the Emergency Department where she and Ben were able to watch a DVD while they observed her. The nurse looking after us said it was the quietest shift she could remember for a long time. All the nurses were great and had an awareness of our family situation, which probably added to their gentleness. They appreciated that as I was happy to avoid the hospital as much as possible, there was some concern that led to bringing her in.

Our dear friend Cath came with her kids (with lunch and bearing gifts) and took Ben home for a play, which allowed Gabi and I to hang around to have this resolved.

The initial view from nurses was the possibility of orbital cellulitis, which would lead to the administration of IV antibiotics. The doctor checked her closely and felt that it was an infection of a gland in the eye. Her eye was responsive and there was an absence of a few other symptoms that swayed him away from the former view. He also had the registrar double-check and she agreed with his diagnosis.

Gabi was sent home with a combination of oral antibiotics, eye drops and an eye ointment (the latter for bed time). We've been told there should be an improvement, and if so, she can go to school in the morning. If things haven't settled in 24-48 hours, then it will be a return trip to the hospital for a drip. Without the swelling and the tenderness on the swollen part of the eye, you wouldn't even know there was anything wrong with Gabi.

As an aside, the doctor that treated Gabi was originally from Kenya. After a brief discussion we both worked we were "brothers in Christ". It was a real blessing to talk at that level and have someone who genuinely cared about how we were travelling as a family but able to rejoice in our salvation and knowing where Maria TRULY has gone!

After a weekend of driving and hanging around the hospital (sometimes reflecting on times I'd spent next to Maria, especially as Gabi's bed was around the corner from where Maria had stayed on two occasions prior to her admission) I've hit a wall. I am acting at a higher level at work for the week ahead with my boss overseas on work, so I'd better try and grab some sleep soon.

21 October 2010

Fiji holiday photos finally posted!!!!

I have now included photos in all the Fiji entries. I amended a couple of the narratives and am still yet to include text in others. Getting there.......

20 October 2010

Wed 20-Oct-10 (9 months, Ben's AFL presentation)

Both Ben and I woke, feeling a million dollars.

In the car on the way to school, we chatted about how slowly, yet quickly time has passed. I sat last night after working till late at home just scrolling through the last five years of photos and realised how important those memories were, but also how they mean nothing to Maria anymore. Strange thoughts that arise through grief.

The work day was a little heavy in that I had two of my staff experience serious family medical issues (one involving an emergency caesarian tomorrow morning for their first child, and the other with a terminally ill dad whose passing is imminent). I was at least able to support them with hugs and SMSs. I know that the hugs I received spoke a thousand words when words were not what was needed.

This evening we had Ben's AFL presentation. He was very excited to receive a trophy (as did the entire team) and we won a signed Western Bulldogs AFL jersey in the raffle (link for those foreign to AFL). Ben was chuffed. Another late night for the kids.

Tue 19-Oct-10 (another work excursion)

Ben was too unwell in the morning with diarrhoea. After dropping Gabi he accompanied me to work. We stayed till the early afternoon. Ben sat quietly watching DVDs on my laptop and was very polite to all of my colleagues (as was Gabi the week before). I was very proud of them both.

By the evening Ben was settling and I was struggling with what he had.

Mon 18-Oct-10 (more illness - Ben this time)

Ben had a mate come home on Monday afternoon so they could work on a project together. They went out the back to ride scooter and jump the ramp. After a short time Ben returned and complained of stomach aches. I knew this was not play acting, especially not being well enough to engage in those activities.

By the evening he was going downhill.

Week of 11 to 17-Oct-10 (illness, parents help, leaking roof)

I took Gabi into work with me for part of Tuesday, then had Wednesday off work. As she was not improving, I called my parents Wednesday morning and they blessed us by driving down to be there. Gabi stayed off Thursday, but was well enough to return to school on Friday.

Gabi complained that her light wasn't working. On Saturday evening I pulled off the light cover to find it was filled with water (it tipped and poured over me, Gabi's bed and the floor. We had to isolate the room for the night.

We had a relaxing weekend at the local shopping centre, church, and on the roof pulling up tiles in an effort to locate the source of the leak. Nothing could be found. In fact it was quite dry. I put a new globe in and all is working okay for now.

We all really appreciated the home-cooked meals and game of Monopoly (especially me, who couldn't do a thing wrong - for a change).

Mon 11-Oct-10 (first day back at school, Gabi sick)

After a week in Fiji and two weeks holiday, the kids should have been firing on all cylinders to return to work, but it was not to be. Gabi was especially sluggish. I put it down to the dread of returning to the school routine.

Later in the day I received a call from school to say Gabi had flu symptoms and was resting in sick bay. A short time later I received another call to say she was nauseas. Both she and Ben ended up with a short early mark.

09 October 2010

30 September 2010

Tue 28-Sep-10 (The trip back to Oz)

...watch this space...











Mon 27-Sep-10 (Fiji - 7th/last full day)

Time with dear friends from Canberra....watch this space...









Sun 26-Sep-10 (Fiji - 6th full day)

Today is another scorcher! It’s the kids dinner time (just after 5:00pm) and I’m in the room typing the day’s events as Gabi rests. She had an accident a little while ago, hitting her nose and mouth on a fountain in the pool, which caused some bleeding. After I administered first aid and settled her down in the room, she fell asleep a short time later.

I noticed my stomach has not been 100% today, but I feel otherwise okay. With the late finish to last night we struggled to get out of bed. I was dragging Ben out at 9:45am as breakfast finishes at 10:00. More pool time for us all. I did some more water-sliding, but this time with Gabi in my lap. It is a fast slide so our combined bodyweight was like a torpedo hitting the water at high velocity. We met a couple with a seven year-old girl who live near my parents and where Ben was born. The lady even worked at the hospital at the same time as Maria but didn’t recall her name (a long time ago). Gabi and their daughter Myah seem to be getting on well and spent hours in the pool together today.

Gabi and I had an “Aussie BBQ Lunch” and a "mocktail" each, while Ben stuck to his usual, which is provided for the kids.

We’re one of 4-5 families remaining from the time we arrived. It’s interesting to watch people come and go and feel like we’re part of the furniture. I’m getting to know more of the staff. I was chatting with another staff member (Laite) and she asked about what music I listened to. When I told her Hillsong, this sparked another faith conversation.

I was chatting with another “long time” family and the mum and one of the sons went to the Methodist church in the local village this morning. That opened the door for me to share that I had a faith and was interested in her motivation for the church visit. She put it down to “something spiritual” she couldn’t clearly define.

I had hoped to do a few more local cultural activities with the kids, but they have just loved what they’ve been doing and my motivation has been a bit lacking...maybe next time...

Ben has just returned to the Bure after dinner and Gabi is still asleep. I’m planning an early night for the three of us. I’m hoping this little nap of Gabi’s doesn’t drive her to a second wind later...to be continued...


...later that evening...
After an hour or so I had some trouble trying to wake Gabi. I knew she was exhausted but apart from not wanting her to sleep I wanted to ensure she hadn't been concussed. As Gabi missed the kids' dinner she and I dined together before she went off to watch a movie with Ben. We ended up watching a live Polynesian dance evening, which included fire dancing, which the kids and adults "conga'd" down to. The guys were very impressive.


We had some photos taken with the performers and I got the kids back to the Bure a lot later than planned (just before 10pm), but fortunately before the "frog races" started.